My Beloved,
A professor was teaching about anger; he asked his students, "Why do we shout in anger? Why do people shout at each other when they are upset? The students thought for a while. One of them said, we shout because we lose our calm. "But why shout when the other person is just next to you?" asked the professor. "Isn't it possible to speak to him or her with a soft voice? Why do you shout at a person when you are angry?" The students gave some other answers but none satisfied the professor. Finally he explained, "When two people are angry at each other, their hearts psychologically distance themselves. To cover the distance, they must shout to be able to hear each other. The angrier they are, the stronger they will shout to hear each other through that great distance. Then the professor asked, "What happens when two people fall in love? They don't shout at each other but talk softly, why? It is because their hearts are psychologically knitted. The distance between them is very short. The professor continued, "And when they love each other even more, what happens? They do not speak, only whisper and they even get even closer to each other in their love. Finally they even need not whisper, they only look at each other and that's all....
So next time you shout at a loved one or a colleague, know that you are creating distance between your heart and that person's heart. The true test of growth in your life is not always found in what you say, but in what you choose NOT to say. Even though you might have every "right" to respond harshly to someone who has wronged or offended you (personally or professionally), remember the big picture and this whole story. How many times have you been spared in spite of your mistakes and imperfections? Grace enabled us to see each day.
Reflect on that and don't take things for granted in your life. In appreciation for all that you have been given, choose to give up your right to hold an offense or debt against others. Your capacity to thrive and the grandeur of your life's legacy will be a direct reflection of your ability to forgive and forget. "Smart people know how to hold their tongue; their grandeur is to forgive and forget".
Also an excerpt from one of my devotionals speaks about anger.
A professor was teaching about anger; he asked his students, "Why do we shout in anger? Why do people shout at each other when they are upset? The students thought for a while. One of them said, we shout because we lose our calm. "But why shout when the other person is just next to you?" asked the professor. "Isn't it possible to speak to him or her with a soft voice? Why do you shout at a person when you are angry?" The students gave some other answers but none satisfied the professor. Finally he explained, "When two people are angry at each other, their hearts psychologically distance themselves. To cover the distance, they must shout to be able to hear each other. The angrier they are, the stronger they will shout to hear each other through that great distance. Then the professor asked, "What happens when two people fall in love? They don't shout at each other but talk softly, why? It is because their hearts are psychologically knitted. The distance between them is very short. The professor continued, "And when they love each other even more, what happens? They do not speak, only whisper and they even get even closer to each other in their love. Finally they even need not whisper, they only look at each other and that's all....
So next time you shout at a loved one or a colleague, know that you are creating distance between your heart and that person's heart. The true test of growth in your life is not always found in what you say, but in what you choose NOT to say. Even though you might have every "right" to respond harshly to someone who has wronged or offended you (personally or professionally), remember the big picture and this whole story. How many times have you been spared in spite of your mistakes and imperfections? Grace enabled us to see each day.
Reflect on that and don't take things for granted in your life. In appreciation for all that you have been given, choose to give up your right to hold an offense or debt against others. Your capacity to thrive and the grandeur of your life's legacy will be a direct reflection of your ability to forgive and forget. "Smart people know how to hold their tongue; their grandeur is to forgive and forget".
Also an excerpt from one of my devotionals speaks about anger.
| Control Your Anger |
| 'A quick-tempered man acts foolishly...' Proverbs 14:17 |
| It's normal to get angry, but uncontrolled anger can cost you dearly. When Nabal refused to feed King David and his soldiers, David's anger almost drove him to murder. Only Abigail, Nabal's wife, saved David from the destructive potential of his own unchecked emotions. Looking back, David told Abigail, '..."Blessed is your advice... because you have kept me this day from coming to bloodshed"...' (1 Samuel 25:33 NKJV). Our anger is often rooted in pride. Naaman the leper felt insulted when Elisha told him to dip seven times in the muddy Jordan River. '...Naaman became furious, and went away and said, "Indeed," I said to myself, "He will surely come out to me, and stand and call on the name of the Lord his God, and wave his hand over the place, and heal the leprosy"' (2 Kings 5:11 NKJV). The Arizona Republic, a USA newspaper, reported that when Steve Tran of Westminster, California, closed the door on 25 activated bug bombs, he thought he had seen the last of the cockroaches that shared his apartment. But when the spray reached the pilot light of the stove, it ignited, blasting his screen door across the street, breaking all his windows and setting his furniture ablaze. 'I wanted to kill all of them,' he said. 'I thought if I used a lot more, it would last longer.' According to the label, just two canisters of the pesticide would have solved Tran's roach problem. The blast caused over 10,000 dollars damage to the apartment building. And the cockroaches? Tran reported, 'By Sunday, I saw them walking around.' Yes, 'A quick-tempered man acts foolishly'. (Source Word for Today, 18th of February 2011) Hope this blesses you With Love Kally xXx |
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